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That is not how this was supposed to go. To seeing that the life that I was creating was not a life that was sustainable and it wasn't a life that was bringing me joy and fulfillment. Why is it not working for me the way that it's working for them? Really showed me how little self-worth that I actually had. Human design is a synthesis of a bunch of different sciences that gives you like more unique energetic blueprint. It combines like, everyone's like, so it's like.
power scopes in astrology and I'm like, that is a very basic version of what this is because energy has to be exchanged. I was like, I like that way of looking at sales and I would get people to show up on calls but they didn't take action on the things that I wanted them to. My business coach was like, we lost that narrative.
And we're like, That's good. I think I have a master generator on my hands. Not yet. Give me some more. Give me some more first and let me decide. You know what mean? Is anybody looking? Hopefully not.
Shani Fay - Podcast Producer (01:13.327)
Welcome back to the Mommy Mogul Mastery podcast. I am your host, Shani Faye, and I'm excited. I am here with Miss Diamond Drip. Okay, Miss Diamond. So she is amazing at helping you to really clarify who you are, right, and identify why you are doing all the things that you are doing, why it makes sense for you. So I'm gonna let her explain a little bit more because she's very good at it. This is her thing. So Miss Diamond, welcome to the show and tell us a little bit about who you serve and what you do.
Thank you, Shadi. I'm so excited to be here with you. So I am coach Diamond Drip and every single one of us has a unique energetic blueprint. It shows how our energy is designed to flow, how we're designed to make our best, most aligned decisions. And it gives you some insight into areas where
you maybe have leaned into what we in human design call conditioning, whether that's from your family, from your friends, or the biggest one, society. And what I do is I help people, my heart and my soul, my passion are women, especially women, little people, to really discover who they are on an authentic, realistic level and get them from operating out of fear and self-doubt and
the shoulds and the have tos and all the things so that they can actually have fulfillment here in this lifetime. Yeah, that seems to be a reoccurring theme. I actually just released an episode about that. Well, close to that, about being authentic and some of that conditioning that happens, those generational patterns that we really have to break. So I think this is very unique perspective because
That guest was actually a like a spiritual life coach, right? And so this would be a very unique perspective to have on the same, you know, kind of a similar subject. So I'm excited to get into this. So tell me like what made you what made you decide to even do this? What were you going through? Were you like, I need this in my life. And then what was the point where you decided, I need to help other people do this? For sure. I love that question. So I've been an entrepreneur for four years. The first two.
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were in a product-based business, which I always say allowed me to grow a successful business in the blissful ignorance of my own self-worth. when I participated in a clinical trial that used psilocybin, which is the active component in magic mushrooms, to actually heal my depression. I was diagnosed with bipolar II when I was 14. And so that trial, it helped me
shed a lot of the weight that the depression, like the cloud, as I refer to it sometimes, it helped me shed the cloud. And it helped really open my eyes to seeing that the life that I was creating was not a life that was sustainable. And it wasn't a life that was bringing me joy and fulfillment. I like a year into running my first business is when I started Diamond Drip Consulting, which is my current business.
And that was because I was in school pursuing my visual communications degree. And I was like, I can make some logos. I can design some websites. I was doing the product based business that I was doing that graphic design business. I was still in school and I am a mom. And that trial showed me that like my businesses were running me and not the other way around.
And it's so easy to fall into that slope, right? That pit, you're just walking minding your business. You're like, snap, it's running me. Exactly. So I was like, something has to change. And one of the things that I really started to take notice in was like, my product based business, I was coaching people to figure out like what their problems were so that I could recommend the specific things. And in my graphic design business, I was
coaching people on marketing and brand strategy and then turning around and doing all of the work myself. so. Yeah, that's another, that's another, that's the other side of the street. Like that's the other side that you fall into. They're like, that's so good. Can you help me with that? And then you end up doing it you're like, wait, that is not how this was supposed to go. Exactly. So when I had that like wake up call, was like, okay, coaching is something that obviously is in me.
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So how do I streamline what I'm doing? And that was when I made the pivot into an online business model so I could just focus on coaching. And even though I had a successful business, it made me feel like an imposter because I was like, this is way different. Like the product based business, even in the graphic design business, like I could look at the rates of like what other people were charging. I could like do all the things and come up with this. But when it was just like
Like, so people are just going to talk to you and you're just going to like help them with stuff. Like, you're going to charge how much for this? Like I became, I became the product in a lot of ways and that really showed me how little self-worth that I actually had. And it forced me into a lot of the shitting. So I ended up joining an online business coaching program that talked a lot about.
getting visible with your message and your mission and sales being spiritual, which was like a complete change and a welcome change. Cause I used to work for a gym for three years. and I was the general manager. So I knew what salesy looked like and I didn't want any parts of that. So when she was talking about like, you know, you're helping people through a transformation and you know, life costs money. So energy has to be exchanged.
I was like, I like that way of looking at sales. However, that program had a lot of one size fits all approaches and proven strategies and frameworks. So I would try some of the same things and I would get people to show up on calls, but they didn't take action on the things that I wanted them to. But we would get on these like weekly group calls and like.
Crystal's having a six figure launch, so and so just had like 25,000. I'm like, what am I doing wrong? Like why is it not working for me the way that it's working for them? And it just like doubled down on the imposter syndrome. There were so many times where I was like, maybe I shouldn't be doing this. Like maybe there's a reason why. Yeah.
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That's just entrepreneurship too, right? Like we're just on this roller coaster, just trying to figure our lives out, you know? Like we've taken this big step to do something that probably no one around us has done before, like no one in our immediate. So that's also why we feel so scared because we don't really have a direct example of what this should look like and how exactly to do it. And so anytime, like I always like to say with...
Impostor syndrome you feel it because you're new at this thing. It is not that you are an imposter, right? You are not posing to be something that you're not you're just so new at like some of the dynamics of it that it just feels like my god I should just go sit down in the corner somewhere because who do I think I am? You know what mean? Is anybody looking? Hopefully not. Yeah, but I totally get that I totally get that but it just cuz you were new
You had come from product to moving into service and it was like, this is very different than I thought it was going to be. And yeah, you're right. I'm trying to think what for this? do people really care about that? Like, would I pay that? And that's another thing, right? Yeah. I pay that? If your pocket is not set up like that, you're like, there is no way people are going to pay this. And they will. And they will. Because of what you said, that transformation. So sorry, I cut you off. Keep going. No, it was so needed,
So yeah, so at a time in my personal journey and in my business journey, I was trying to figure out like what my business superpower was. And everyone always would say like, your energy is so contagious. Like I love your energy. And I was like, well, I can't bottle that up and sell it to someone. So and as much as I'd like to.
As much as I'd like to, I can't teach people how to have my energy because I've tried that in my personal life. So it actually began to be something that frustrated me. Like I was beginning to see my energy as something that was outside of me. I was like, yeah, everyone loves this energy thing. However, like I need to figure out what my superpower is, like that I can like market and sell and things like that. And so.
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At a time where I really needed it the most, someone asked me, do you know your energy type? And I was like, I have no idea what you're talking about. No. And she sent me this calculator, which it's on Jovian archive. And so the whole like marketing business model is for you to pull your chart and they first want you to like buy the 50 page report or whatever that's at the bottom.
And I was like, I'm not about to buy a report for something that I don't know anything about. Not yet. Get me some more. Get me some more first and let me decide. Right? Which is why when I finally figured out how to put a calculator on my website, I was like, I'm not about to send people down this, but like, I'm going give them something. But I didn't have that. So I went to YouTube University. was like. school of the heart knocks. Exactly.
And I was like, what does it mean to be a generator in human design? And the first video that I watched, it was like, when you are doing work that you love, you generate so much energy that it literally bubbles up and spills out of you into the people who are around you, into the things that you're doing. And it just, it's in your aura. You have this open and enveloping aura. And I was like, that sounds like me.
Everything that I found after that from having emotional authority, you know, having these strong emotional waves, which I was made wrong for because of the bipolar two disorder diagnosis, being a five one, which it's so funny that you can university right like two hours later down the rabbit hole that is human design on YouTube.
I walked away with a lot of information and that's actually the way that I interact with the world. When I don't understand something, I will investigate it. I will research it, which I learned is not everyone's design. I was like, everyone does You must be Virgo. Are you a Virgo? What? I'm a Virgo. That is all me. Like, I just need to know all the things. Do not try to limit me on information. I need to know in order to make a wise decision.
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But yes, so even understanding the 5.1 profile, it was like, this is me. And not only is this me, there are other people who resonate with this. And this is something that I can really hone in on. Human design is a synthesis of a bunch of different sciences that gives you your unique energetic blueprint. combines like, everyone's like, so it's like horoscopes in astrology. And I'm like, that is a very.
basic version of what this is because it does combine astrology, astronomy, but it also pulls in quantum physics and the kabbalah tree of life and the Chinese Yiching to name a few. And what I love about human design is like with the zodiacs and things like people are like, oh, I'm a tourist. So that means I have these certain characteristics and not all of them fit, especially because we know that
conditioning exists. But one of the things that I love about human design, because it synthesizes all of these different sciences into one unique blueprint, is called the science of differentiation. And so it looks at how your energy, like even if you had the same birthdate as somebody like years apart, like it would look very different. And so it does pull in some of those elements, but it also gives you that uniqueness.
versus like the generalizations that come with some of the sciences by themselves. Now does your energy, does it like shift and change? Because we talked a little bit about conditioning, right? So like where does this energy come from and does it change? Like I want to know more. Yeah, so your actual blueprint does not change. at your time, and that's why when you pull your chart,
the time of birth is important because at your exact time of birth, were imprinted with, I'm having a science, you were imprinted with neutrinos, which are like these particles from the planets and they help form your personality. So that exact time of birth on your birth date is like your personality side. 88 days prior to that date, you were imprinted with another set of neutrinos, which forms your.
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unconscious self the things that you know, they kind of are just there and you kind of know they're there but like it's kind of like your underlying script and so
Right. It's based on the planets. So some of that information comes from the planets as they move in our cosmos. So your unique energetic blueprint does not change. However, as the planets continue to move and shift and change, they activate different gifts, different gates in us that give us access, temporary access. I go live every week.
Sometimes we have two transits in one week. So whenever we get a new transit, I always try and go live and talk about the energies. And so like on the 11th, we just entered into a new transit and we're having energy in our atmosphere until the 17th. And so the sun is gate four. But the really important one, I think, is gate 49, which is the gate of principles. It's the strength of principles. And so it is causing people to look at
Especially if they have the other end of it. It's causing people to look at like, okay this is what I need on the material plane and How am I how are my relationships supporting me and getting the things that I need? Here in this lifetime and it's causing them to look at their relationships and being like are you here for yourself or Are you here to help me? Is this a community vibe? Is this a partnership?
and I didn't even realize it was happening until I did the research on the transit. I honor my boundaries. And so when we entered into the transit, it was like the middle of the night. So I was like, okay, I didn't get it on the 11th, but I got it on the 12th. And I, I had a beta client have a beta client who, you know, back when I wasn't sure of my worth, I was like, okay, like, I'll do this for free. Like we'll do this contract and things. And so because.
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You know, there's this saying like when you have skin in the game you take it more seriously. Yeah, it's people who pay pay attention Yes And she is a perfect example of that because throughout our contract she has rescheduled she has canceled she's been like I'm going to a PL I need to cancel and I'm like I'm not this particular time around us like I have these slots available this week
If those don't work for you, I'm not like basically I was like, I can't bend over backwards just because you like we you pick this time to be our weekly meeting. Like it wasn't like I was like, you know, this is where you have to show up. You you pick this. You set this work for you. And so it caused me to have to honor my boundaries, honor my principles around valuing my time. And I I normally don't have access to that cake. So when I realized that that was what was happening, I was like,
I like this What like triggers these different gates then so like how do I know when like my gate 49 is gonna open like what Like what determines when these different gates open? Yeah, so the biggest determining factor is the Sun in the earth gates those change so constantly that but Like for example, so in human design, I don't have a defined heart you go
center. I have one gate open, one gate defined there. And it's not always the most straightforward gate. But what comes with having an undefined or open ego heart center is that struggle with self esteem, self worth thinking the actual not self question that comes out of it is do I think I have something to prove. And so right now, well, actually for like the past three or
four weeks, it's been a while, I've been appreciative. There's been an activation in one of the energy centers that actually helps me like connect. So each gate has like a harmonious gate that is on the other side in a different energy center. And when they actually connect and meet, that's what causes centers to be defined. And so the gate that I don't have is connected and it has been
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And one of my mentors, always says, cause she also doesn't like 53 % of the population doesn't have this defined. And so she always says that whenever she's rewriting her anchors, she always looks to see if she has definition in her heart, in her heart, ego center so that she can have the value of the transformation that she provides versus like shooting herself or being like,
think this sounds nice because that's what I was doing. was like, you know, everyone's all about these like triple digit numbers like two, two, two. And I had originally when I was redoing my offers, like I put that and my business coach was like.
You tried to do a little and I was like, what? And she was like, yeah, do some math and figure out like your expenses, figure out your household versus the business and then come back to me. And I did the math and I looked at my time and I was like, yeah, you were right. That's so funny. You can bring that up. Cause like I did some math the other day and I was like, wait, um, Hmm. So for every one client, like.
It's three months of my life, but I don't, is, that's only covering one month worth of rent. like you just, you really do have to think that way as a business owner, like, okay, well what are my expenses? And then like work your way back from there rather than, you know, I think this is what people can afford to pay or, know, this was, this feels comfortable for whom? Who does it feel comfortable for them? And they getting all this good out of you. And I'm pretty sure.
that you over deliver when you're having conversations with people because here we are just having a conversation for a podcast and I'm like, ooh, that's like it's so much information. You know what I mean? So I can imagine that you over deliver. So for two hundred and twenty two dollars, no baby. I'm so glad that you have made that adjustment. and before I forget, so you did mention earlier that there's a there's something that they can take on your website.
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Right. So what is that to let everybody know and we'll put it down in the description box below But make sure you mention it again, so they know I appreciate you. So yeah, it's called the actual chart is called a body graph chart I just have it on my website as pull your chart. So you enter in those that information like I said your date of birth time of birth and place of birth and It will give you
your inner Jeffie blueprint, which quite honestly, it is a little bit overwhelming when you first look at it, because there's a lot to take in. There's like some numbers on the side. You've got like this person looking thing in front of you. You've got some stuff with color, some stuff with it, without it. You've got arrows, like it's a whole situation. And that's one of the reasons why like it lights me up so much because the investigator in me is like, I want to know everything about all of these things. And I'm getting close. But
On that, once they pull their chart, it actually will give them what it means to be whatever their energy type is. Each energy type has a specific strategy that they're designed to interact with life. So for generators, for example, which 70 % of the population are generators, our strategy is to respond. So in...
Almost all of the energy types have some form of waiting involved, which is why it's so difficult for us generators because we're like, have this dream, this goal. I have to figure out how to do it. And it's not that you don't have to figure out how, like of course set smart goals, of course put your intentions into the universe, but like constantly initiating and like burning your energy versus like putting your intentions into like your networks, putting your intentions on a social media, building a-
brand so that people can find you and offer you the opportunities looks a lot different from being like, my gosh, I have to go down all these rabbit holes and fill out all these applications and really just burning yourself out. So it tells them their energy type, their strategy. There are seven different authorities. Something like 50 % of the population has emotional authority, which means that it's best if we, at a minimum, sleep on things before we...
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make really big decisions in our lives, which is hard because we live in a society that wants answers right now, by now. That's a very valuable lesson to learn though. And I didn't always have that. I'm getting better at it. But sometimes, like even if I'll get an email, I feel like this impulse to like, I have to respond right now. And I'm like, no, just think about it for a little bit. You know, especially with an email that rubs me the wrong way, you know, like I want to clap back immediately. But I'm like,
Just sleep on it, think it through, and then respond. So I found that there's just so much power in just being able to like, I don't have to answer that right now. I don't have to address that. So I appreciate that you brought that up. That allows me to go into my random tips. what I learned, because I had this thing with emails as well, as business owners typically do, learned.
emails weren't designed to be responded to right away. Like somewhere along the way, we lost that narrative and we're like, like so and so sent me this email. Like, that means they were thinking of me like literally it was designed like in a work system so that like people wouldn't have to like get up from their desk or like if somebody was away, like it would be there when they got back and the other person
could go on with their life. It was never designed the way that we put pressure on ourselves. my god, that's so cute. It's not instant messaging. You know what I mean? But that aside, the chart tells them their authority, their profile. And then if they want, there is a seven page ebook called Improve Your Health by Your Design. So based on the custom chart that they pull, it'll give them specific strategies on how
they sleep best, how they handle overwhelming pressure, and how their immune system was designed. So they can always download that. That's awesome. Yeah, we'll definitely make sure that we have all the links for that. Because that's good. And so and you've talked a bit about like how it really helps with the business. Like you mentioned your business coach and like she just makes sure that she's in the right place before she makes these decisions. So how has it specifically helped you in your business?
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Yeah, so definitely with imposter syndrome, like that's always constant comparison. I did this thing called the Leadership Experience Tour back in September. part of, did you speak on Today's that time? I think so. Part of that cohort, there was somebody else who spoke on stage and she's a confidence coach. And so she's very confident. And so.
What is actually what is she confidence and authenticity like strategist or something is what she calls herself. And so she has this big curly hair. She's got like the like she's like a whole vibe and like the second time that we because I went back in March to help out on the tour. didn't speak on stage, but I went back to help out with some of the tech things and she also came because it's always great for branding photos. And so she was just talking about like
She's in Florida, I'm in Maryland, which I mean, it's debatable which one is nicer. I mean, they're about to be swallowed up at any time by the ocean, but you know. You know, I am from Florida. Immediately in my mind, I'm like, well, they are both nice, you know what I They are. I've been to both places. But I think there's a more relaxed vibe in Florida for sure, like especially with so many people.
I don't know relaxes thing. maybe because South beach, like, cause right now I actually live in Georgia and I moved here because it was getting that traffic. was like, ma, I gotta go to like, don't leave. But, yeah, the traffic was ridiculous. So if you're like working and living there, I don't know how relaxed it is, but if you're visiting, if you're on vacation, like it's amazing. Cause I thought Maryland was like real chill and real relaxed, but I was on vacation. So yeah. Yeah. Vacation mode is different.
So, my God, she's in Florida. She's in Florida and she would tell us like, you know, how she just has these like, she wakes up at like five and she goes to the gym and she like eats, you know, she makes her smoothie and she like eats all of this food that's like good for her. And then she like moses onto the computer around nine to check her email, like this whole, and I'm like.
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And like, know the way she like structures her time, like she doesn't structure it in a way where like she's in back to back to back meetings. Like she sets her prices where, you know, the value of the transformation she provides. And I was looking at her at that time and I was like, how do you do that? Like, how do you, how do you, how do you, how do you do these things so effortlessly? And I'm like, all the time. seems like.
Where are you finding these extra hours in a day? Tell me tell me tell me your ways stop stop gatekeeping So I asked her I was like do you mind if I look at your energy and she was like, you know people of course They love learning about themselves as well So she was like, yeah sure and I found out that she's a projector and I was like Okay, so projectors are technically a non energy type
generators and manifesting generators were like the energizer bunnies. can like work, work, work, work, go. And like we, if we're doing work that we love, we love it. We love the work, hustle, whatever, as long as it's bringing us satisfaction. And that's because we have a defined safe role. So it's like our life force energy. Projectors, reflectors, and manifestors do not have a defined safe role.
So the not self question that comes out of that is, I know when enough is enough? And it's really important for them to conserve their energy. And so for projectors specifically, like their purpose is to be like our guides. They can see big picture kind of deal, which is why she is great as a coach. And she, their strategy is just, you know,
Do work that, like do the things that you love, take care of yourself, like master your craft, et cetera. And then you will receive invitations into things. And so like they have to, their strategy is to wait for the invitation. So it's not a lie for her to be, you know, in Kajabi creating a bunch of landing pages and doing a bunch of stuff that like I find joy in, but I just, it gets irritating sometimes. Like that's not a line for her.
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And so when I saw, you know, like it began to be one of those things where I was like, there would have been a time where I would have been like jealous. I would have constantly compared myself. I would have like made myself wrong because I don't just eat through the day like that. on an energetic level, like she couldn't sustain the work days that I can sustain because I have that energy.
She would burn herself out. that's so good. So like she is great at what she does and that is just her energetic spirit to be in. But you are great in your space because that is what you are energetically built for. I like that. Yes. So it creates that understanding. And then just on a personal level, because I know that's business like imposter syndrome, I can name a bunch of different examples. But I know one thing I wanted to make sure that I mentioned is that
You can look at your child's blueprint. And so I'm a generator and I do not have a defined heart, egocenter, as I mentioned, and I'm emotional. My daughter is a manifesting generator, which means that she has, her throat is defined and she connects to one of her motor centers. So she has. In quantum human design, manifesting generators are called time benders.
because they have the gift of efficiency. like, whereas generators, we have to be very much in our process. We're like, okay, in order to get from X to Z or A to Z is probably a better example, then we have to do like, you know, one, two, three, four, five, like all the way till whatever. And so manifesting generators, they have the gift of like coming in and they're like, okay, that's a lot.
So I think three is really just a suggestion. know, six and seven, we can tweak these a little bit and make it better. And they're actually aligned, which is why it's really important for them to slow down, at least a little bit, so that they don't have to go back and repeat stuff, because they missed a step. This is something that we struggle with, because my daughter's seven.
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She's always missing steps. She's always thinking that she has the gift of efficiency. And I'm like, haven't necessarily honed that craft yet. You're not quite, I know that it's in you now, but we're not quite there yet. But she has a defined heart, which me and her dad do not, both of us do not. And before we knew that she was literally designed differently from us, we're like, how does this child have so much, like,
Getting her to eat vegetables sometimes, I was like, my mom and my grandparents, everybody would be able, because I thought I had something to prove. She's like, I have nothing to prove. I think I have a master generator on my hands. And she will just not. Oh, my perfect example. We went to King's Dominion for her birthday. And she said, like, he's.
old enough, tall enough to ride some of the rides. And we were trying to get her to like get on these really fun rides. You know, we're like, you're tall enough, you can do it. And she's like, I want to ride the ferris wheel. I want to ride like whatever baby things that you could ride at like the carnival. And we're like, so we came all the way to Kingston Minions so that you could do carnival things. But it was like her birthday, so we couldn't really. Yeah, right. Her one of things. But we tried. We really like.
We tried to milk things that would have worked on us. Like, oh, you're a baby. You're going to just not ride the roller coasters. And she was like, no. I will not. And? But I kind of love that for her. Because I kind of love that. Because I have an 11 and a 12-year-old. And oh, lord. I keep saying that, and they are going to get very upset with me. They're 12 and 13 now.
My bad. Mom need to catch up with the months. So my 12 year old, is very much like, she would just say whatever she feels she is going to do. I mean, not, she's not disrespectful. You know what mean? She's not disrespectful. within reason, but just like so sure of herself. And I'm like, yo, I wish that I was like that because some of the things that I am like fighting, you know, like some of the, that those limiting beliefs and like,
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some of the things that I'm working through and healing through at my big age, I'm like, you know what, if I was like that, we would be at a whole different place. But I mean, everybody's got their path. Everything happens for a reason. So I am grateful for the path that I'm on now. Thank you, Holy Spirit, you know, for keeping me together. But yeah, like I, so tell me, right? Cause now this has got me, got me thinking, when is a good age to maybe test that for your children? To like see one, what your...
energetic path is or your energetic makeup is and then what theirs is like when is a good age to test that. So Apple charts for infants. So the creative of human design, name is Rauruku, he's passed now the founder. He had this saying which he would say, know, adults can use human design to help them shed some of their conditioning. It's a longer
feet for sure especially depending on like when you discover it like I've been doing human design with my 80 year old aunt her conditioning is thick yeah well 80 plus years like no baby that's not what I do that's that's not what grandma does like but grandma can do that but she doesn't yeah yeah
He says like, you know, it can be used for adults and it's great if we align with our true selves, but it's really for the children so that we don't screw them up like we were screwed up. So even if I like I was my business partners with a local nonprofit and so they have these community potlucks. And so there was this mom who she brought her baby. I was like, how old is your baby? And he was like nine months.
And I was like, mind if I look at his energy? And so like, of course, an infant's not going to understand their strengths and things, but it can even be important to know that your child is emotional. Early on, it can be important to know if, cause in gene keys, which is another one of the modalities that I work with, to know the genetic wound of your child and how they have an emotional manifestation, like a reaction to that wound. Like it can be.
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helpful to know that they are emotional and that when whatever this wound is triggered, they react in anger or aloofness. So any age. you know, I think so here's what's coming up for me because I know that there's going to be someone because on this podcast, almost every episode, somehow God makes his way into the conversation. And I know someone's probably going to be like, but you know, I don't subscribe to that because whatever.
Now, I don't agree with that because I believe that God is just so good and he is so smart that yes, he could make all these things happen where you are uniquely you and then this is what can like help you identify. So I believe, all right, I'm just gonna put that out there. But what's coming up for me is that someone is going to say, I don't know that this is something that I could benefit from. But you remember when there was a book that came out,
like love languages, right? Five love languages. Everybody was running to read this book because I want to know how me and my man gonna connect and all these other things, right? And so they were running to do that to find this thing out. I think that this, what you were doing is so good because it is allowing you to understand the people in your life in a really intimate and deep way, especially your children.
So go read love languages if you want to send your man. my point is, if they would run to read that, then they should be open-minded to, I mean, for anybody who's not, I maybe everybody who's listening is like, girl, who you talking to? Because I'm all in. But I imagine there's someone who is not. And they should be. They should be open to it because I think that understanding your children and helping to break some of those generational patterns is powerful.
Like we're raising the next generation, you know, and we're in business because we want to be successful. We want to have impact. And so why be doing all these great things for other people and not doing all that we can at home? So I have a couple of things for that, if I can, a couple of things. So the Afro mentioned 80 year old on. She, she is.
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I like to consider myself more spiritual than religious, but she is very much into religion. And I remember, I forget what it was we were talking about, but I think it might've been around her incarnation cross. And I had said something about like, cause you know, some people who are religious, they don't believe in like past lifetimes, reincarnation, things like that. And so, you know, depending on where you fall.
I mean, human design is just going to say, you know, what the information is. So like left angles, we're here to clean up karma from past lifetimes. Right angles are here to have a personal journey and create karma for like future lifetimes. And so I think it was somewhere around that. basically what I said to her, cause she almost looked like she was like challenging me a little bit. And like, basically what I said to her was like, I was like, at the end of the day, religion is a belief system. Like if you really think about it.
Like, and I had to bring up her as an example. I was like, you were raised Methodist Baptist somewhere along the way. You've had new beliefs and then you changed and you went to Episcopalian. You had new beliefs again and now you Catholic. Yeah. Like it's a, wow. Methodist, Baptist, Catholic. Wow. Okay. That's a shift. That's shift. And so even, even to that point, like I'm in this.
Law of Attraction group. And one of the things that the host of the group, she always says, like, we are these divine beings. And they reference the Bible a lot. But even with those references, she even talks about how a lot of people, because of the way that it's taught in churches, like, we have divine cosmic.
creative power, like a lot of the things that happened in the Bible, like people are like, oh, that happened way back when I couldn't turn, you know, modern, like all of the stuff. it's like, literally that's, that's a belief that you have, like you are putting those limitations on yourself to say like, oh, that happened back in like 1800, 80, like I couldn't do that. Like that's a- And then why couldn't you, right? Like why couldn't you? Because-
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Truthfully speaking, right? Like we're supposed to be more advanced now. So if they were doing it back then, why can't you do it now? Like surely there's some kind of, I don't know what the way is because like I mentioned in another podcast, Jesus is walking on water. I have not figured that out. I don't know. But there is, you know, I'm just saying it's possible that you can do these things and you're right. You're just setting those limiting beliefs on yourself. You're telling yourself you cannot do it. I used to do that about math, right?
I homeschool my kids now and I was very, you know, nervous to do that because, oh my gosh, I'm not great with math. But I was feeling called to homeschool them. And so I had told myself all that time, like, I'm not going math, I'm not going math, I'm not going math. And so I sucked at math. Now I have no choice because I am very intentional about my, y'all gonna be somebody in this world, okay?
And so I have to know what I'm talking about. And somehow, just because I've opened my mind to either it's going to get done or it's going to get done, I understand math like I never misunderstood it, you know? And it's just like, wow, just that little shift, just that little shift. Like if you believe that you can do a thing, then you can do a thing. If you keep telling yourself that you can't do a thing, then you can't. know, like when my kids say, oh, mommy, it's hard. It's now it is. You know what mean? Because you just said that.
Could have been easy, you know what mean? We could have just got this over with. So yeah, that's, yeah, I think shifting mindset. look at that. You said that you had started as a mindset and a business coach, and here you are. Here we are talking about mindset. Well, and all of it like placed together too. All of it's very important together. So I wanna ask you, like what is your favorite part?
about what you do? Like, what's that moment when you're talking with the client and you're like, this is why I do it? What's that moment? Well, my favorite part honestly starts before I even like really talk to them necessarily. So I have an app on my phone, like people pull their charts on my website and in readings I do that. But like if I'm out and about, like I was at, I took myself to a CEO lunch like a few weeks back.
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And I really just love the energy of my waitress. So was like, do you know your time of birth? I pulled her energy. my favorite part is, like, I know that human design is a science of differentiation. And every time I'm going to get a different chart. But my favorite part is just seeing the differences, like seeing what similarities we have, seeing what their strengths are. And even like,
gotten used to telling people I'm like, I'm gonna nerd out for like 30 seconds and I'm just gonna say a bunch of things that you don't understand. And then I'll go back and I'll explain it. yeah, but I think my favorite, my favorite part second to that is finding people who, like I said, they have actually is finding out whether or not they have emotional authority or they're a non emotional one of the other six because
with emotional authority, I'm like, hey, I get it. I see you, we are here with the emotional waves. And I'm able to give them insights on how I've handled my emotional authority now that I'm aware. Even if they're not emotional, I learned that even if you don't have a defined solar plexus, you still take like
Just because you don't have something defined, it just means you don't have an energetic buffer there. So whereas like people who have that center defined, they put out energy. Like if you don't have that buffer, you take in energy and then it becomes amplified in you. And so my aunt has a completely open solar plexus. she, it was funny, cause when I pulled her chart, I was like, it says you're non-emotional.
And you wanted the most emotional people I know. was like, are you sure you gave me the right time of birth? But then as I understood more, like, you know, these people are very empathic, like from young ages, like they're said to be the emotional children because they can't separate what emotions are theirs and what emotions they're taking in from their environment. And so consequently, sometimes they are labeled as emotional. They do have a short fuse.
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And so like, I think my favorite part, second to pulling and seeing the individuation is like helping them understand that particular center. Okay. I know we, we gotta, we gotta wrap up because we got a hard stop, but this could have been definitely like a part one and a part two. so interesting. I'm so glad that you were able to make the time to do this. This was very, very interesting. and I hope that people are taking away.
Like how learning more about themselves and really understanding why they function, how they're functioning can help them not only in their business, but also in their family life, you helping with their children, all the things. So yes, thank you so much for doing this. Thank you for being here. Any last nuggets that you want to leave with people before we got to go? Yeah, so I am a part of an anthology.
So that book is launching on September 20th, so I'm very excited and I finally can have this as a quote because this is usually the nugget that I leave. So it is the limit does not exist. The fear and self-doubt will make you believe that it does and so if you can figure out a way to shift your perspective and step beyond those limitations
the amount of joy, satisfaction, fulfillment, success, all of the things, like it'll surprise you, 1000%. Yeah, awesome. Thank you so much. So for anyone listening, make sure that you check our description box below. If you are listening on wherever the Paws are casted, we'll put it in the description box. If you are watching us on YouTube, which I hope you are, because we really want to.
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